Once you start going step by step, you learn many things along the way. Knowledge is power. You need to learn your field -- whether it's business, health or even parenting.
Once you have knowledge you need to start using it.
If it is health related, for example, you learn that grains or sugar are not good for you, eliminate them and see how you feel. This is firsthand powerful knowledge.
Set up a plan and know that plans will often change, surprises will happen. Using the example of my friend (from previous post) who lost weight. She had a meal plan for the day, for the week. She had social events and needed to improvise. Experience thought her how to deal with changes in her plan. Mistakes or pitfalls are just learning opportunities and there is no need to get discouraged. The best thing is to anticipate that things will not always go exactly as planned and figure out how to do better next time.
My favorite parenting book is Positive Discipline by Jane Neslen, she teaches to acknowledge mistakes, reconcile and resolve them.
THE THREE Rs OF RECOVERY FROM MISTAKES 1. Recognize‐‐ “Wow! I made a mistake.” 2. Reconcile‐‐ “I apologize.” 3. Resolve‐‐ “Let’s work on a solution together.”
A real victory is when you notice yourself not repeating old mistakes and being able to avoid snags. It doesn't happen over night, but with time you learn to say "okay, I made a mistake, here is how I'll do it differently next time."
Our friend Diane Sanfilippo over at Balanced Bites has wise things to say about setbacks and failures: http://balancedbites.com/monday-motivation-setbacks-failures/